Talking to Your Doctor About Pain

Let's Talk About Pain

January 29, 2019
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Pain brings more Americans to their doctors than any other complaint. But how do you communicate your pain clearly when the time comes? It can be a challenge.

Acute Pain

Most all of us have experienced what pain experts call acute pain, pain that arises from a serious cut, an injury, a broken bone, appendicitis, a strep throat. Acute pain alerts us that something is wrong that we need to take care of. As the injury heals, the pain generally disappears.

Chronic Pain

But chronic pain persists for weeks, months, even years, sometimes after the triggering incident has long passed. Some chronic pain has no known cause. 

As our population ages, the overall incidence of chronic pain increases with it, made worse by the opioid epidemic created in part by attempts to treat pain. 

Health economists have estimated the annual economic burden of chronic pain as somewhere between $560 billion and $635 billion, more than the yearly costs for cancer, heart disease and diabetes combined. 

That doesn’t include the over-the-counter products, psychotherapy, and out-of-pocket costs pain sufferers pay for acupuncture, massage therapy, yoga, chiropractic care, meditation, hot and cold packs, herbal remedies, and other forms non-standard medical care that may help alleviate some chronic pain conditions.
Books, research reports, and first-person accounts pour forth each day on how to prevent various kinds of chronic pain, ways to manage specific pain conditions, and how to pay for it.

How to Communicate Your Pain to a Doctor?

But I want to start with the basics. Like how in heck do you communicate the unique facts of your pain to your doctor—or, even to yourself? 

Maybe you’ve had this experience during a medical or physical therapy appointment when pain is your main complaint. The receptionist hands you a clipboard to update your information, and along with it there’s a paper asking for information about your pain. It will show two-dimensional outlines (front and back) of a person and ask you to place an X where it hurts. Then you’ll answer a couple of questions and the page will ask you to rate your pain level on a scale of 1-10.

As you complete the paperwork, perhaps your internal monologue goes something like this:

Q: Where’s the pain? 
Me: Here. But sometimes here. Or there when I move my arm. Sometimes all over, though some parts generally hurt more or hurt differently than others.
Q: When did you first notice the pain?
Me: I can’t remember, exactly. It’s sort of crept up on me.
Q: On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your pain level?
Me: Which pain? When? What am I doing? Should I put down my running average?
Q: Circle the word or words that best describe your pain.
Me: Let’s see. It burns, stabs, aches, gnaws, throbs, flares, crunches, pinches, pulls, prickles, twinges, drills, bores, screams, shoots, stings, tingles, and cramps…though usually not all at once.

You feel compelled to scratch two or three X’s of different sizes on one of the figures to indicate the points of worst hurt and the order of pain intensity. You circle a few of the descriptive words. But before you even see the doctor (therapist, nurse, physician’s assistant), you feel like a failure.

Long-lasting pain, is complex. It doesn’t translate well into hard numbers or static charts. Often, people can’t find or don’t know the words to describe it.


How does it affect your life?
I recently heard a New Hampshire Public Radio segment featuring pain specialists commenting that the pain scale is too simplistic and can lead to people getting inappropriate treatment for their pain. 

The specialists suggested that people describe their pain complaints in words—lots of words, including flowery language and metaphors, and the ways their pain affects their daily functioning and their quality of life.

Great ideas! 

However, since the average medical appointment doesn’t allow much time for flowery speeches, and the average doctor interrupts or stops listening to a patient after 11 seconds, you have work to do.

Some suggestions:

  • Spend time investigating your pain. Think about when you first noticed it and whether it’s gradually gotten worse or stays the same. 
  • Pay attention to it at different times of day, when performing different kinds of actions.Take some notes, maybe a lot of notes. For example, if the pain doesn’t seem to have a single location or a consistent intensity, jot that down. If it moves around, gets worse or better with the time of day, the temperature, the seasons, or with certain activities, write down the specifics. 
  • Think about how the pain prevents you from doing what you used to do or want to do, what seems to make it worse, when and where it hurts more, what helps (or doesn’t) alleviate it. Write it down.
  • Don’t forget to include the ways the pain has affected your state of mind (e.g., “I have a hard time concentrating on my work.” “I don’t want to be around other people.” “I’ve started snapping at people.” “I feel hopeless.”) 
  • Write down everything you’ve done to try to lessen the pain, what’s helped and how much. 
  • Now collect your notes and boil them down to a single page of bullet points, maybe two. (By now you’re halfway to becoming a professional writer!)

 After the hello and your doctor’s sharing test results  (if any), hand over your notes and plunge right in. “Dr. Goodwill, because I know we don’t have time for my whole story, here are some notes to add to my medical record that summarize my pain situation. 

“Now I‘d like to tell you briefly how this pain is affecting my life and share my goals for managing both the pain and my life.”

Then begin talking. With any luck, you’ll get a few minutes in more than 11-second bursts.

Chances are you’ll find your pain-investigation exercise enlightening and useful, even beyond communicating with your medical professionals. It may help you understand, monitor, and even cope with your pain. Keep making notes.

Here’s an Old Masters pain chart to give you a lift.


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